Pollinate, Friday February 5
I participated in the yoga class (staying on the desired side of the fine line between bliss and anxiety) while my partner got dressed up.
Some great dancing. I had a shift. Instead of seeing my partner as the perfectly embodied expert and myself as the clumsy geek, I started to see that both of our expressions are ours and that each person’s style is fine just as it is. Sometimes, either or both of us are in the flow individually. Sometimes not. Sometimes our flows jive with each other. Sometimes not. Sometimes, our habits and patterns synergize with the music, our moods, the food in our belly, the people around us... the constellation of the stars. Sometimes not. She can teach me belly dance techniques. I can teach her yoga asana alignment. Sometimes these practices connect us to the flow of a particular dance floor, or with particular people. Sometimes not.
Dance Spirit, Sunday, February 7
I attended another dance event with my partner and her 2.5 year-old son. At first, he was reluctant to stop nursing. I hid behind the sheet. His mother asked "Where's Ariel? Can you find him?" No budging. I walked away and said that he probably couldn't get me. This eventually lured him away from her as he started to chase me around. Over the course of several trips together, I've seen him grow more comfortable dancing with me and we've developed certain games together that we can re-deploy without starting from scratch. As his dad describes, this event provides him with expansive play space.
A fetish is a story masquerading as an object.
- Robert Stoller.
He needed to have his blocks. “Can’t we just zap each other with our hands?” Mama asked. “No.” Mama went to get from the car. He chases us with the blocks and zaps us. Sometimes, as I fall down from the zap, I lift him onto me and we do a bit of contact dance. Occasionally, he relaxes into the dance and we spin, lift, release, twirl, together. Sometimes, he wants to get down and return to the safer structure of the game. While doing a bit of my own dance, I am fluid and responsive towards his. I learn form him. Engaging him in this way gives me a focus that eases some of my anxiety about being on the dance floor and helps me slip into joy and fluidity.
I participated in the yoga class (staying on the desired side of the fine line between bliss and anxiety) while my partner got dressed up.
Some great dancing. I had a shift. Instead of seeing my partner as the perfectly embodied expert and myself as the clumsy geek, I started to see that both of our expressions are ours and that each person’s style is fine just as it is. Sometimes, either or both of us are in the flow individually. Sometimes not. Sometimes our flows jive with each other. Sometimes not. Sometimes, our habits and patterns synergize with the music, our moods, the food in our belly, the people around us... the constellation of the stars. Sometimes not. She can teach me belly dance techniques. I can teach her yoga asana alignment. Sometimes these practices connect us to the flow of a particular dance floor, or with particular people. Sometimes not.
Dance Spirit, Sunday, February 7
I attended another dance event with my partner and her 2.5 year-old son. At first, he was reluctant to stop nursing. I hid behind the sheet. His mother asked "Where's Ariel? Can you find him?" No budging. I walked away and said that he probably couldn't get me. This eventually lured him away from her as he started to chase me around. Over the course of several trips together, I've seen him grow more comfortable dancing with me and we've developed certain games together that we can re-deploy without starting from scratch. As his dad describes, this event provides him with expansive play space.
A fetish is a story masquerading as an object.
- Robert Stoller.
He needed to have his blocks. “Can’t we just zap each other with our hands?” Mama asked. “No.” Mama went to get from the car. He chases us with the blocks and zaps us. Sometimes, as I fall down from the zap, I lift him onto me and we do a bit of contact dance. Occasionally, he relaxes into the dance and we spin, lift, release, twirl, together. Sometimes, he wants to get down and return to the safer structure of the game. While doing a bit of my own dance, I am fluid and responsive towards his. I learn form him. Engaging him in this way gives me a focus that eases some of my anxiety about being on the dance floor and helps me slip into joy and fluidity.
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